The audiobook
The whole book, read aloud in eight chapters — 4 h 14 min. Free, like the text. Nothing to sign up for.
Every chapter is also free to read on the page, and the PDF is free too.
Chapter by chapter
Introduction5:43
Why this divorce book was written during the divorce and not years after it, and who it is for.
The Collapse16:22
The day a marriage comes down is not the day the life broke. A man reads his own collapse as a diagnosis instead of a catastrophe.
The Empty Room22:23
Who a man is when he is alone: the empty flat, the relief that should have been grief, and the difference between love and dependency.
A Place in Their Life18:14
Fatherhood after separation, measured in actions rather than in a custody calendar: presence, routine, and the three walls that protect children.
The Inner Enemy51:03
Fear, attachment and the need to be approved of — the inner war a divorce starts, and how a man stops losing it.
Death of the Protagonist39:16
Letting the performed self die: the man who lived to be admired, and why the collapse came for him and not for the life.
Birth of the Operator43:26
Discipline, money, the body and a system for deciding alone — how a man is rebuilt after a divorce, in practice.
The New Life58:02
Not a return to the old self but a new one: work, meaning, faith, and the question of another relationship.